Everyone wants to be in a relationship. And to start any relationship, there are some questions you need to ask before thinking of getting into one.
Relationships are meant to eventually end in something beautiful, such as friendship, which ends in marriage.
We need to genuinely know the other person’s interests before starting any relationship with them. Most relationships do not end well because, one way or another, there might be different preferences for each partner. And something that is said to have a happy ending becomes pain and heartbreak.
Now, here are some questions you need to ask before you start any relationship:
1. Genotype
This is the most important question everyone is supposed to ask before even thinking about starting any relationship. It helps you know if you are compatible with each other and saves you from giving birth to unhealthy kids in the future.
A lot of people do not ask this question and end up getting married to each other only to give birth to unhealthy kids. While others too invest in the relationship, get attached, and when they’re ready for marriage, their blood group stops them from getting married.
Knowing and checking the blood group of each other is very crucial and essential in starting and building a new relationship.
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2. Marriage
Ask the other partner about wanting to get married along the line. This is because most people do not start a relationship and see marriage as the end. They only want to have fun and feel the love of someone, but they take marriage out of the equation.
They are sometimes also scared of marriage, so instead of taking this risk, they end the relationship. To them, marriage is the last thing to think of in a relationship. So to avoid any waste of time, make sure you ask about their opinion on marriage.
Answering those questions saves you a lot of problems, headaches, and pain. Because, at the end of the day, if you are dating someone you are not married to may one day say, “I am out and cannot do it anymore.”
3. Religion
It is important to understand the other person’s religion and know whether you can get along with them. It is very crucial to talk about. There is no point in being together if you can not discuss the other person’s faith. Someone can be an atheist and others can be Christians, and they will agree to stay together.
Some religions do not accept you if you’re not of the same faith as them, so knowing the religion of the other person before starting any relationship with them is very important to save you both from wasting your time.
4. Kids
First and foremost, you need to know if the other person wants any kids. And how many kids do they want to have in the future? How do you want to raise your kids? Where do you want to raise your kids, and under what faith? You can also talk about the genders of the kids.
All these are going to make you aware if you want to continue with the relationship. Generally, some people do not want to have kids in the future due to some personal reasons better known to them.
Instead of talking about the colors they will like, the food, and the games, the kids would, rather talk about these things.
5. Conflict
Asking this question helps you know how to deal with them when they are upset or mad about something. Ask them how they react to conflicts or what they do when they get mad at something.
Everybody has their own way of resolving conflicts and some may be very seriously mad over days.
You do not have to ask them, but you should ask people who are close to them, such as family, friends, and neighbors. A lot of people go into abusive relationships just because they do not know the temperaments of the other.
In all, make sure you don’t end up with someone having issues with anger management because that’s deadly and cannot resolve conflicts when matters arise.
6. Gender roles
It is important to know the rules one plays in a particular relationship. Knowing the roles of each other helps resolve so many ups and downs in a relationship. Asking these kinds of questions helps assign roles to each other.
What the man is going to do, the woman is also going to do. Such as: is the man willing to support the woman when she gets tired and vice versa. Who is going to pay the bills, who is going to buy groceries, how are the bills going to be paid, and so on.
Each of you is supposed to care for each other in the relationship and if one is not willing to succumb, do you think it’s going to favor you?
Some men want to rule without allowing women to have a say in the relationship because they always have the final say. Some women also do not want to be submissive because they don’t want any man to be with them.
